POSITIVELY PATTERNED Don’t draw attention to yourself, that’s what we’re told as fat women, right? We’re supposed to meekly accept our position in the side-lines ensconced in black because ‘it’s slimming’ and bow our heads to the floor. Proclaiming, no! Don’t look at me; I’ll make myself invisible to you. Why do we do this? … Continue reading
Category: Body
An Open Letter to My Bullies…
You probably don't even remember me, or if you do, you probably don't recall the throwaway comments that you tossed my way or the fun that you poked at me - but I do. It's hard to forget something that you feared every day and without even realising it you've had an inconceivable impact on … Continue reading An Open Letter to My Bullies…
LUSCIOUS LEGGINGS Leggings are comfortable. They’re stretchy, they expand, they move with your body and you can do almost anything in them – including lunges – without fear of them breaking, in fact the only thing more comfortable than leggings are pyjamas. So why, pray tell, is it frowned upon when curvy women decide to … Continue reading
Need a Body Positive Boost…?
Body positivity is not something that is ingrained into us from an early age, we do not arrive as fully-fledged EffYourBeautyStandards members and sometimes we have to remember not to run before we can walk. The journey to body love is long and tumultuous, it seems ridiculous sometimes that even though we are given this … Continue reading Need a Body Positive Boost…?
SUNS OUT GUNS OUT Who’d have thought that arms would cause so much controversy? Fat girls have long toyed with the idea of donning a strappy top, or even a strapless top when the sun arrives - but inevitably, we always seem to end up reaching for our old faithful cardigan. But where does this … Continue reading
From One Fat Girl to Another…
There are certain things that people tend to do when conversing with a fat girl. Often, these things fall on two sides of the fence: the ignorant exclaims of “you’re not fat” resonate in our ears when we’re around people who don’t wish to offend – or on the flipside of this, the obnoxious “my … Continue reading From One Fat Girl to Another…
Sorry, Not Sorry…
The body is not an apology. The body knows not what it does to warrant being apologised for, so why is it held responsible? Why is it constantly being apologised for and excused? In society, those outside of the realms of public and societal acceptance are expected to push through their lives wordlessly and without … Continue reading Sorry, Not Sorry…
The Good, the Bad and the Fatty…
This was written by me for Vagenda magazine. The original article can be found here. I can’t stop thinking about women’s bodies. If you think this statement has anything to do with my sexuality, you’d be wrong – although I am, in fact, a lesbian, body acceptance and positivity is at the core of my … Continue reading The Good, the Bad and the Fatty…
Body Positivity is Not Glorifying Obesity…
Unless you're a newcomer to my blog, you'll have noticed that my posts largely revolve around body positivity. Being a body positive activist is quite a feat to undertake - it means putting your own body out there to be seen, to be potentially criticised, whilst trying to practice what you preach. You have to … Continue reading Body Positivity is Not Glorifying Obesity…
Coffee With My Past Self…
If I could grab a coffee with my past self, I would. I'd grab a cappuccino and a chocolate muffin - although I've no doubt that my past self would have the same, she'd hesitate over the muffin, but indefinitely (guiltily) settle for it in the end. I'd watch her, fiddling with her clothes and … Continue reading Coffee With My Past Self…
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