The media would have us fooled that being fat is the worst thing that you can ever be. Being fat is seen as one of the least desirable attributions in our culture, and growing up – I believed it. I would envy the girls at school for their slim figures and would have given anything to be the same as them. It didn’t matter if they were an unkind or mean person, because being slim was the thing to be if you wanted to be successful, attractive and respected.
Last year, I launched my ‘FATshion Faux Pas Friday’ series which focused on tackling the fashion world and rewriting the rules of fat girl fashion. Fat women are told repeatedly to shrink, in size, in voice, in the clothes that we choose to wear – “hide yourself”, we are told, “make yourself invisible, so un-seen that I don’t even have to avert my gaze…” A year ago, fat women were still emerging from beneath our rocks, blinking bleary-eyed into the positive light that was now shining in our direction and ever since then, we haven’t looked back. Continue reading
Unlike delicious Instagram-worthy oats, self-love is not something that can be conjured up overnight. After listening to society drone on about the ideal body image for most of our lives, it will understandably take some time to undo the negative effect that the media and ‘friends’ have on our self-esteem.
There is more to learning to love yourself than just the ‘power of positive thinking’ (although this does help) – so here are my 7 Tips For Self-Love in Action. Continue reading
There’s no denying that the body positive movement has picked up momentum in the last few years – YAY! For too long, society has pitched beauty and attractiveness as being the number 1 must-haves for success and general acceptance in the mainstream. Leaving the rest of us, who don’t fit into the ideal mould, contemplating what it is that we’ve done wrong. But now that the body positive community is in full force and SLAYING with every opportunity that we get, these preconceived beauty ideals are being broken down. Continue reading
Growing up without body positivity on my side was tough and I, like many of my plus-size sisters, felt an undercurrent of fear running though my veins. Fear of judgement clouded much of my youth and I often restricted myself in an attempt to blend seamlessly in society: I wouldn’t allow myself certain experiences, I’d break plans, I’d make up excuses simply because I didn’t want to go outside and be faced with another day of worrying what a stranger might think of me. Continue reading
One question that I get asked, is how do you cultivate self-love? Self-love is something inherently subjective, meaning that only you can decide what works for you in terms of loving yourself. So, I thought I’d ask some of my favourite body positive advocates what they do to keep positive, keep smiling and keep on loving themselves.
Loving the skin that you’re in is an incredibly subjective thing, it is personal to us and only we can decide how we show ourselves self-love. Tattoos are pretty similar. The ink that we decide to mark our skin with often means something personal to us; tattoos document a journey, a memory, a reminder, a goal, or for some – it’s just a super gorgeous design and we needed it on our body. To quench your thirst, here are 15 body positive tattoos that you didn’t know that you needed.
You might be forgiven for thinking that plus-size women have low self-esteem, given the amount of crap that we’ve had to put up with for most of our lives, but you’d be wrong. This tweet hits the nail on the head: it is so tiring that the go-to reaction when someone meets a plus-size woman, is that she must have low self-esteem. Continue reading
I owe a lot to the body positive community. The ability to look in the mirror and not cringe, the freedom to wear whatever I want, being able to acknowledge that I am worth my time, knowing that I can conquer my goals, but most importantly, finding the strength to push aside everything that society has told me and learning to love myself. When my body positive journey began you’d have found me hiding behind my hair, avoiding horizontal stripes and taking up as little space as possible. I began researching, reading and scrolling through the social media feeds of badass fat women and finally began to see myself for what I am – taking small steps I was able to throw off the cloak of shame and feel alive. Baby steps prevailed and here I am today. Fat AND beautiful. Continue reading
It has become the standard expectation by society that if a person is fat, then they must hate themselves. Well, I’m sorry to be the one to burst society’s bubble – but from the point of view of a self-confessed fat girl, this really isn’t the case. Continue reading