The media would have us fooled that being fat is the worst thing that you can ever be. Being fat is seen as one of the least desirable attributions in our culture, and growing up – I believed it. I would envy the girls at school for their slim figures and would have given anything to be the same as them. It didn’t matter if they were an unkind or mean person, because being slim was the thing to be if you wanted to be successful, attractive and respected.
If you follow me on social media you’ll know that my most recent endeavour has been burlesque. For a long time, I’ve been interested in taking lessons but it’s only been since I’ve discovered body positivity that I’ve actually booked the damned classes! And what can I say – after winning a ‘gold star’ for the best come to bed eyes – I’m loving it.
If you’re still doubting the body positive benefits of burlesque – even after reading my post, ‘7 Reasons Why Burlesque Rocks the BoPo World’, then look no further! I cornered my burlesque teacher, the fabulous Lizzie Cheeld of Burlesque Jems and we enjoyed a little Q&A session… Continue reading
Unlike delicious Instagram-worthy oats, self-love is not something that can be conjured up overnight. After listening to society drone on about the ideal body image for most of our lives, it will understandably take some time to undo the negative effect that the media and ‘friends’ have on our self-esteem.
There is more to learning to love yourself than just the ‘power of positive thinking’ (although this does help) – so here are my 7 Tips For Self-Love in Action. Continue reading
Growing up without body positivity on my side was tough and I, like many of my plus-size sisters, felt an undercurrent of fear running though my veins. Fear of judgement clouded much of my youth and I often restricted myself in an attempt to blend seamlessly in society: I wouldn’t allow myself certain experiences, I’d break plans, I’d make up excuses simply because I didn’t want to go outside and be faced with another day of worrying what a stranger might think of me. Continue reading
Sometimes we find ourselves stuck in a rut through no fault of our own. We have to somehow effectively balance work, home, family, a social life, relationships and our own needs in order to get through each day. But sometimes, this demand of the daily grind can get on top of us and we find that we’re stuck in the same routine day in, day out. Now, this can’t be healthy for us, and we need to take care of our mental health to ensure that we remain happy and content. By introducing a small change into our day, we can boost our mood and feel more fulfilled come bed time… Continue reading
Loving the skin that you’re in is an incredibly subjective thing, it is personal to us and only we can decide how we show ourselves self-love. Tattoos are pretty similar. The ink that we decide to mark our skin with often means something personal to us; tattoos document a journey, a memory, a reminder, a goal, or for some – it’s just a super gorgeous design and we needed it on our body. To quench your thirst, here are 15 body positive tattoos that you didn’t know that you needed.
I owe a lot to the body positive community. The ability to look in the mirror and not cringe, the freedom to wear whatever I want, being able to acknowledge that I am worth my time, knowing that I can conquer my goals, but most importantly, finding the strength to push aside everything that society has told me and learning to love myself. When my body positive journey began you’d have found me hiding behind my hair, avoiding horizontal stripes and taking up as little space as possible. I began researching, reading and scrolling through the social media feeds of badass fat women and finally began to see myself for what I am – taking small steps I was able to throw off the cloak of shame and feel alive. Baby steps prevailed and here I am today. Fat AND beautiful. Continue reading
When you have been born and bred into a society that hails thin bodies as the only acceptable body type, it is difficult to shift this notion when you yourself do not fall within this ‘socially accepted’ body. But society and the media does more than just hail these bodies, it is frequently rammed down our throats every time that we walk the streets, every time that we hit the swimming pool, every time that we ride on public transport, flick through a magazine, watch a music video: all day every day we are fed messages that we are not enough, that we will never be enough. But I am here to tell you that you ARE enough, that these preconceived beauty image ideals are not set in stone and the ‘rules’ can be re-written. Continue reading
It has become the standard expectation by society that if a person is fat, then they must hate themselves. Well, I’m sorry to be the one to burst society’s bubble – but from the point of view of a self-confessed fat girl, this really isn’t the case. Continue reading
Summer is finally here and there can be no better way to enjoy it than to chuck on some comfortable summer clothes and head out into the sunshine. But for some of us, it’s not that easy. So if you require a little dutch courage this summer, then look no further than my cocktail recipe for body positivity! Continue reading