Society dictates that we shouldn’t feel good about ourselves. We are told that we are too much or that we are not enough, we’re too big or too small, too loud or too quiet – it is so rare that we are told to exist happily and proudly in our bodies exactly as they are. … Continue reading Let’s talk about compliments…
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Fooling around with the fat girl…
As a plus size woman living in a world where fatness is still seen as an oddity, the stigma of fat bodies as being everything but desirable still remains. People try their damnedest to disarm fat women of their sexuality, regarding it as a joke or as a fetish - in my book, that's not … Continue reading Fooling around with the fat girl…
Let’s talk about self-esteem…
Someone that I grew up with recently unearthed a photo of me at 11 years old as she was packing to move, and when she shared it with me, my heart stopped. It stopped because I remembered. I remember how it felt to be the fat friend. I remember how it felt, at 11 years … Continue reading Let’s talk about self-esteem…
Go Naked or Go Home…
Nakedness, why do we fear it so much? The origins of fear of someone seeing our naked bodies can be mapped across most of our lives: from strategically placing a towel when in the changing rooms, to averting our eyes from the TV when nudity is in front of us, to hiding under the covers … Continue reading Go Naked or Go Home…
Where are the plus-size happy endings?
The logistics of movie making are beyond me, but as a film lover there is a startling fact apparent that I can't not blog about for much longer. I am well versed in the genre of rom-coms and romantic dramas, some of my favourite films even fall into these categories, but I've come to notice … Continue reading Where are the plus-size happy endings?
A Recipe for Body Positivity…
Ingredients 125g/4oz Strength 125g/4oz Patience 2 Free Range promises to yourself 125g/4oz Self-belief A little support Method Preheat your oven at whatever temperature you like – there is no indefinite gauge for how long your body positivity will take to fully rise. You can turn the heat right up, or allow it to gently simmer … Continue reading A Recipe for Body Positivity…
Things you should never say to your fat girlfriend…
If you’re dating a fat girl, you’re probably more than well acquainted with the negative body issues that crop up every now and again. But if you find that you’re constantly putting your foot in your mouth where your lovely lady is concerned, here are my top five things that you should never, ever say … Continue reading Things you should never say to your fat girlfriend…
I stand in awe of my body…
I stand in awe of my body, and you should stand in awe of yours too. Your body is remarkable and it is not given the credit that it deserves. The culture that we live in focuses so highly on praising those who are aesthetically pleasing, that it forgets to acknowledge the other (more important) … Continue reading I stand in awe of my body…
Fatsexual…
In the interest of full disclosure you need to know three things: I'm fat, I'm a lesbian and I love sex. Woah, too much? Too soon? Sorry about that - but for the purposes of this post I think it's better to get these things cleared up sooner rather than later. Besides, taboos? The world … Continue reading Fatsexual…
Fat shaming? Yeah, it exists…
Nicole Arbour’s arbitrary video ‘Dear Fat People’ has hit the news after going viral this week. If you haven’t seen it then I’d suggest that you don’t even bother. Utter tripe spawns from her mouth as she claims that “fat shaming is not a thing. Fat people made that up” - this is all, of … Continue reading Fat shaming? Yeah, it exists…
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