Staying body positive all the time is hard, frankly, it’s impossible. We are so used to seeing and hearing messages of body hate, that we have become accustomed to the feelings of low self-esteem that so many of us are dealing with. Even the most positive of body positive activists have days when they look in the mirror and shudder – but that’s not our fault, sometimes it’s a challenge to stay positive about our bodies. Continue reading
When we talk about bodies, the conversations we have rarely revolve around the things that we like about them, more so, the things we’d like to change about them. Many of us strive to include body positive or self-confidence boosting language in much of what we do, but every now and again, we may unintentionally use body shaming language in our discussions that may influence those surrounding us, as well as our own mindsets. Here are 5 Ways You Might Be Using Body Shaming Language (& How to Be More Mindful of It).
If you’re involved in the body positive community, the chances are you’ve come across the badass, lingerie-wearing, body confident babe that is Niamh Morrison (HCupChronicles). Not only does she post knee-quiveringly good lingerie posts with captions to boot, but she does a lot of work towards better visibility in the LGBTQI* community. Here, I interview her to find out more about what makes her tick, what ticks her off and what posing in your lingerie is really like… Continue reading
At nearly 26 years old, I thought that I’d left bullies in my childhood, but as it turns out – I was wrong.
You’re the creep in our inbox; you’re the stranger in the street; you’re the clique in the workplace; you’re the loved one who ‘means well’; you’re the keyboard-warrior; you’re the anxiety in our lives – you’re the bully who never grew up. In some ways you’re more toxic than the childhood bullies we encountered in our youth – only now, you should know better. That’s what shocks me the most about your behaviour, on some level you know that what you’re doing is wrong, yet for some reason you can’t seem to stop yourself.
“Eat up, fatty!” – the fries thudded against my side and splattered me in a slimy film of ketchup. Blinking back tears, I assured my friends that I was in fact okay and that my coat was getting old anyway.
In fact, this act of hate – and it was an act of hate – was something that would stay with me for a long time. For what had provoked this car full of gaggling men to throw their uneaten fries at me from a moving car, jeering as they went? Why did they feel the need to tarnish my memories? To them, I was rubbish and I was as disposable as their leftovers, all because of the size of my body.
Self-love, unfortunately is not something that can be conjured up overnight – after all we have been listening to society drone on about the ideal body image for most of our lives. So much so, that it will understandably take some time to undo the negative effect that the media and ‘friends’ have on our self-esteem.
There is more to learning to love yourself than just the ‘power of positive thinking’ (although this does help) – so here are my 7 Tips For Self-Love in Action.
Last year, I launched my ‘FATshion Faux Pas Friday’ series which focused on tackling the fashion world and rewriting the rules of fat girl fashion. Fat women are told repeatedly to shrink, in size, in voice, in the clothes that we choose to wear – “hide yourself”, we are told, “make yourself invisible, so un-seen that I don’t even have to avert my gaze…” A year ago, fat women were still emerging from beneath our rocks, blinking bleary-eyed into the positive light that was now shining in our direction and ever since then, we haven’t looked back. Continue reading
Unlike delicious Instagram-worthy oats, self-love is not something that can be conjured up overnight. After listening to society drone on about the ideal body image for most of our lives, it will understandably take some time to undo the negative effect that the media and ‘friends’ have on our self-esteem.
There is more to learning to love yourself than just the ‘power of positive thinking’ (although this does help) – so here are my 7 Tips For Self-Love in Action. Continue reading