“Eat up, fatty!” – the fries thudded against my side and splattered me in a slimy film of ketchup. Blinking back tears, I assured my friends that I was in fact okay and that my coat was getting old anyway.
In fact, this act of hate – and it was an act of hate – was something that would stay with me for a long time. For what had provoked this car full of gaggling men to throw their uneaten fries at me from a moving car, jeering as they went? Why did they feel the need to tarnish my memories? To them, I was rubbish and I was as disposable as their leftovers, all because of the size of my body.
Self-love, unfortunately is not something that can be conjured up overnight – after all we have been listening to society drone on about the ideal body image for most of our lives. So much so, that it will understandably take some time to undo the negative effect that the media and ‘friends’ have on our self-esteem.
There is more to learning to love yourself than just the ‘power of positive thinking’ (although this does help) – so here are my 7 Tips For Self-Love in Action.
Last year, I launched my ‘FATshion Faux Pas Friday’ series which focused on tackling the fashion world and rewriting the rules of fat girl fashion. Fat women are told repeatedly to shrink, in size, in voice, in the clothes that we choose to wear – “hide yourself”, we are told, “make yourself invisible, so un-seen that I don’t even have to avert my gaze…” A year ago, fat women were still emerging from beneath our rocks, blinking bleary-eyed into the positive light that was now shining in our direction and ever since then, we haven’t looked back. Continue reading
Unlike delicious Instagram-worthy oats, self-love is not something that can be conjured up overnight. After listening to society drone on about the ideal body image for most of our lives, it will understandably take some time to undo the negative effect that the media and ‘friends’ have on our self-esteem.
There is more to learning to love yourself than just the ‘power of positive thinking’ (although this does help) – so here are my 7 Tips For Self-Love in Action. Continue reading
There’s no denying that the body positive movement has picked up momentum in the last few years – YAY! For too long, society has pitched beauty and attractiveness as being the number 1 must-haves for success and general acceptance in the mainstream. Leaving the rest of us, who don’t fit into the ideal mould, contemplating what it is that we’ve done wrong. But now that the body positive community is in full force and SLAYING with every opportunity that we get, these preconceived beauty ideals are being broken down. Continue reading
Growing up without body positivity on my side was tough and I, like many of my plus-size sisters, felt an undercurrent of fear running though my veins. Fear of judgement clouded much of my youth and I often restricted myself in an attempt to blend seamlessly in society: I wouldn’t allow myself certain experiences, I’d break plans, I’d make up excuses simply because I didn’t want to go outside and be faced with another day of worrying what a stranger might think of me. Continue reading
Sometimes we find ourselves stuck in a rut through no fault of our own. We have to somehow effectively balance work, home, family, a social life, relationships and our own needs in order to get through each day. But sometimes, this demand of the daily grind can get on top of us and we find that we’re stuck in the same routine day in, day out. Now, this can’t be healthy for us, and we need to take care of our mental health to ensure that we remain happy and content. By introducing a small change into our day, we can boost our mood and feel more fulfilled come bed time… Continue reading
You might be forgiven for thinking that plus-size women have low self-esteem, given the amount of crap that we’ve had to put up with for most of our lives, but you’d be wrong. This tweet hits the nail on the head: it is so tiring that the go-to reaction when someone meets a plus-size woman, is that she must have low self-esteem. Continue reading