Staying body positive all the time is hard, frankly, it’s impossible. We are so used to seeing and hearing messages of body hate, that we have become accustomed to the feelings of low self-esteem that so many of us are dealing with. Even the most positive of body positive activists have days when they look in the mirror and shudder – but that’s not our fault, sometimes it’s a challenge to stay positive about our bodies. Continue reading
The burlesque and drag worlds are rife with diversity, vibrancy and ‘alternative’ ways of living – some of which, sadly, don’t get the representation that they deserve in mainstream society.
The world is an unforgiving place and rarely extends the arm of acceptance out to those who appear ‘different’ in the eyes of a society so blindsided by presumed ‘normality’. Here, I interview Tyler T Love, transmasculine powerhouse about living his burlesque and drag life to the fullest, how he overcomes body image issues and how he is basically a total badass…
I hate to admit it, but as much as we strive for a better body image, we still exist in a space where worth is measured by the size of our waist-lines and how bright our highlight is. Whilst some have opened up discussions about their own body image and seek self-acceptance, there are others who have fallen victim to the negative self-image that society foists upon us. But all is not lost! If you’re looking to rid yourself from the constraints of toxic diet culture and appearance-based expectations, then a better body image awaits – here are 5 things that you can do every day to improve your body image.
The media would have us fooled that being fat is the worst thing that you can ever be. Being fat is seen as one of the least desirable attributions in our culture, and growing up – I believed it. I would envy the girls at school for their slim figures and would have given anything to be the same as them. It didn’t matter if they were an unkind or mean person, because being slim was the thing to be if you wanted to be successful, attractive and respected.
Burlesque has long been a hip-swaying, shoulder-shimmying, bum-jiggling space that sparks self-love and confidence in the minds of many. It is a space that doesn’t accept hate or negativity, and encourages all manner of body diversity – in fact, burlesque is made from the confidence that it emanates. As if you needed anymore encouragement to take classes or get yourself a front seat ticket at a performance, here are 7 Plus-Size Burlesque Babes That Will Inspire You To Love Yourself.
While many body positive activists, myself included, exclaim as loudly as our caps lock lets us that, BODY POSITIVITY IS FOR ALL BODIES and that WE CAN WEAR WHAT WE WANT and that WE ARE WORTHY OF LOVING THE SKIN WE’RE IN – our words are still falling on ignorant ears. The fact is, while body positivity has made the mainstream a (slightly) more diverse and bearable place, the body positive crowd seems to have thinned out somewhat in recent months.
Whether you’re single or not, it’s impossible to ignore the imminent arrival of Valentine’s Day. Slowly but surely the shelves become full of all manner of heart-shaped goodies, fluffy teddy bears and rose petals. Whilst we feel the pressure to couple up on this rose-tinted day, there’s something that deserves more attention than your significant other – you. Continue reading
“Eat up, fatty!” – the fries thudded against my side and splattered me in a slimy film of ketchup. Blinking back tears, I assured my friends that I was in fact okay and that my coat was getting old anyway.
In fact, this act of hate – and it was an act of hate – was something that would stay with me for a long time. For what had provoked this car full of gaggling men to throw their uneaten fries at me from a moving car, jeering as they went? Why did they feel the need to tarnish my memories? To them, I was rubbish and I was as disposable as their leftovers, all because of the size of my body.
If you follow me on social media you’ll know that my most recent endeavour has been burlesque. For a long time, I’ve been interested in taking lessons but it’s only been since I’ve discovered body positivity that I’ve actually booked the damned classes! And what can I say – after winning a ‘gold star’ for the best come to bed eyes – I’m loving it.
If you’re still doubting the body positive benefits of burlesque – even after reading my post, ‘7 Reasons Why Burlesque Rocks the BoPo World’, then look no further! I cornered my burlesque teacher, the fabulous Lizzie Cheeld of Burlesque Jems and we enjoyed a little Q&A session… Continue reading
Last year, I launched my ‘FATshion Faux Pas Friday’ series which focused on tackling the fashion world and rewriting the rules of fat girl fashion. Fat women are told repeatedly to shrink, in size, in voice, in the clothes that we choose to wear – “hide yourself”, we are told, “make yourself invisible, so un-seen that I don’t even have to avert my gaze…” A year ago, fat women were still emerging from beneath our rocks, blinking bleary-eyed into the positive light that was now shining in our direction and ever since then, we haven’t looked back. Continue reading